“Trust Yourself. Create the kind of self you’ll be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement”. Golda Meir
We’re advised to think positively. But first we have to feel positive. These are two different things. There is a difference between being superficially positive and being authentically positive.
If we don’t recognise or are unaware of negative self-beliefs, we cannot be authentically positive. No amount of training can accomplish deep-level positivity. An empowering environment and a desire for self-development are the keys. Negative self-belief reveals itself in an incongruency between what people say and how they feel and act. Watch people’s body language to see if someone’s being congruent or not. We’re animals and can sense it. By the way, you can always recognise someone who’s been “trained” in body language – politicians, TV presenters………et al. There’s no congruency.
Negative self-belief can reveal itself in the repression of others, bullying, autocracy, dogmatism, caution, procrastination, unwillingness to experiment, lack of creativity and being risk-averse.
Authentically positive people like themselves, will take risks, have nothing to hide, are creative, will listen to others, believe anything is possible and encourage the empowerment of others. There’s congruency in their body language and expressions and they have an inner certainty about what they are saying or doing. They will be aware of their strengths and weaknesses and won’t be psychologically blocked from developing their businesses and themselves as people and leaders.